/ˈlimərəns/
The state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings.
Therapy
I see people in the midst of a limerent episode or when limerence is, however temporarily, in the rearview mirror. We'll work together to help you have healthier relationships, develop genuine self-worth independent of romantic validation, and make space for healing old attachment wounds.
Contact Me →Consultation
In a consultation, we'll discuss your specific limerence patterns so you can recognize the early cues and interrupt the cycle before it gains momentum. This isn’t therapy, but focused guidance for making sense of the rumination, fantasies, and emotional upheaval that often come with limerence.
Visit Limerence.nyc →Group · Now Forming
A biweekly Zoom process group for women 40+ who have experienced limerence — the intense romantic infatuation, obsessive thinking, and emotional dependency on another person that can derail relationships, self-esteem, and daily life. This group offers a space to explore the roots of limerence, understand your patterns, loosen limerence's hold, and feel less alone.
Learn More & Inquire →Podcast
Listen to The Intense Mind Podcast with Imi Lo to explore how unconscious mechanisms drive limerence — from the early attachment patterns that set the stage, to the role of fantasy and emotional regulation, to what we can actually do about it.
Listen to the Episode →Written by Nicole Matusow, LCSW
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