Nicole Matusow
New York State Licensed Psychotherapist

Limerence

/ˈlimərəns/

The state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.

Therapy

Working Through Limerence

I see people in the midst of a limerent episode or when limerence is, however temporarily, in the rearview mirror. We'll work together to help you have healthier relationships, develop genuine self-worth independent of romantic validation, and make space for healing old attachment wounds.

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Consultation

Understanding Your Limerence

Interested in a consultation to better understand your limerence, without committing to ongoing therapy? Visit limerence.nyc to learn more.

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Podcast

Have You Ever Been Obsessively in Love?

Listen to The Intense Mind Podcast with Imi Lo to explore how unconscious mechanisms drive limerence — from the early attachment patterns that set the stage, to the role of fantasy and emotional regulation, to what we can actually do about it.

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Written by Nicole Matusow, LCSW

Articles on Limerence

Limerence

Working Through Limerence

Understanding Your Limerence

Have You Ever Been Obsessively in Love?

Articles on Limerence

Limerence: The Agony and the Ecstasy of Our Earliest Addiction

Limerence as a Resistance to Intimacy

Limerence and Splitting

Exploring the Origins of Limerence as Self-Soothing

Limerence: A Psychic Retreat

How Your Limerence is Fueled by Shame and Self-Abandonment

Limerence and the Repetition Compulsion